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Chapter 9..Healing Emotional Self-Abuse P.46-49 |
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SELF-ABUSE: Its Cause & Effect Releasing judgment, blame, guilt, shame, fear, helplessness, and being a victim. The key that opens the door to our desired transformation is through our conscious commitment to take responsibility for all our perceptions and life experiences. The realization that we have chosen these experiences for our own evolution rather than as a form of punishment, accelerates the process of self transformation and healing. There is so much focus today on child abuse, and how many of us have been 'abused' either by a relative or a stranger. The words dysfunctional, co-dependent, abuse, and addiction are all words that we see repeatedly in almost all self-help manuals and psychological therapies. Of all these topics and issues, however, there is an essential one that is not discussed or studied in depth. This is the topic of how we unconsicously or subconsciously create and act out various forms of self-abuse. So many people that are now "coming out of the closet" admitting that they were sexually, physically, mentally, or emotionally abused are unconsciously re-creating the role of victim: "Look what's been done to me, how I was abused". Did you ever have the courage to ask yourself "what part of me attracted this abusive experience?" What part of me was I not loving or in judgment of to attract such an intense experience? What part of myself have I abused to manifest this lack of love in the physical plane? Could this have started lifetimes ago and the pattern just continues to re-enact itseelf until it is healed and resolved? How does self-abuse start? What is the cause? How can I heal all forms of self-abuse? WHAT IS SELF-ABUSE? All self'-abuse has its roots in denial and repression of our basic human need for love, to be vulnerable, and to receive love. Self-abuse started many lifetimes ago. There is not one person on this planet who is not, through one form or another, healing a major aspect of self-abuse. We incarnate on this planet to heal major issues of self-abuse. Whether this started on another planet in another time dimension, or another lifetime here on earth, it does not matter. The point is that as 'human' beings we are all dealing with this same basic issue; we all are learning how to be more loving to ourselves by forgiving, releasing judgments, and transmuting the cause, effect and memory of that abuse. WE CHOOSE OTHERS (PARENTS, SIBLINGS, LOVERS, PARTNERS, ETC.) TO PHYSICALLY ACT OUT OUR OWN UNCONSCIOUS FORMS OF SELF-ABUSE. Taking responsibility for the cause of this unconscious choice allows us to initiate the first step of our healing and transformation. Self-abuse is a form of self-punishment that goes way back in time, perhaps lifetimes, or even light-years/ dimensions away, when we first had our experience of separation, duality, conflict and pain. Many patterns and forms of abuse that manifest during our childhood, are karmic "paybacks" from other lifetimes of abuse in which we all participated as human beings. We chose a mother or father (who may have been our lover, business associate, or rival in another lifetime) to act out a form of self-punishment because we have not forgiven or released our own guilt or self-judgment for an experience we participated in when we may have been the 'villain' or the abuser in that lifetime. Self-abuse can also start from unrequited love, abandonment, or rejection in early childhood . Many times when we do not receive something we really need or want, or when something dear to us is taken away we feel cheated and rejected by the universe. Our inner child screams out in longing and doesn't understand why it can't have what it needs. Frustration and conflict manifest, and feelings of unworthiness start to creep into the subconscious mind. This starts a chain of emotional reactions that inhibit the creative flow of life within us, and what we really desire in life seems even more inaccessible and remote. Somewhere during the succession of these events,
the thought or belief that "I can never have this in my life", "I'll never
be able to achieve this kind of success and relationship", or I'm not good
enough" begin to take over in the subconscious mind. We
begin to feel emotionally
paralyzed. Our power to move beyond that thought pattern, beyond that belief is frozen in
self - doubt and fear. Self-abuse begins at that moment in our belief system when we have
lost the faith both in ourselves and in the universe to create all that we need for our
happiness and fulfillment. If we can't create this fulfillment on earth, how are we going
to find it somewhere else? The search starts and ends within your SELF. No one else holds
that key; not a mother, a father, not your lover, husband or wife. Only you and your God
Self can open the door to love and freedom. |
Chapter 9..Healing Emotional Self-Abuse.. P.46-49 Chapter 11...Reclaiming Your True Identity.. P.57-59 Chapter 15...Healing and Creating Loving Relationships.. P.84-96 |
